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Don’t Vent to Others, It Might Affect Your Divorce

Most of us have been in a situation where we want to share an incredibly frustrating experience with another person.  A lot of people use “venting” as a tool to let off some steam, hopefully making them feel better about what they are upset about. However, venting might not be as therapeutic as we assume, and can actually make us more aggressive towards the person or situation we are angry about. furthermore, the amount technology we use in our daily lives poses the threat of your venting being used against you. In this blog, we explain why you should think twice the next time you want to vent about your divorce.

Social Media Complicates Venting

Although can vent to another person face-to-face, many people choose to express their frustration in a single social media post that can be viewed by the public.  Although social media is fast, convenient, and might make you feel safe when expressing yourself, venting about your divorce on social media can negatively affect your settlement. A post that you didn’t think about and later regret can be captured by other people. This can be damaging if what you were venting about is later used against you by your spouse during your divorce proceedings.

How Can Venting Hurt My Divorce?

Divorce is riddled with disagreements between spouses, and although you might be inclined to post about how frustrated you are with your ex, you should think long and hard before you click post. Recent studies suggest that although you might feel better initially, venting doesn’t actually make you feel better in the long run. Instead, vetting about your frustrations to whoever will listen makes you angrier and more aggressive, which isn’t the way you want to come across during your divorce proceedings. You don’t want to give a judge any reason to dislike you, so try the following techniques the next time you have the urge to vent:

  • Count to 10 before you start reacting
  • Type out what you want to say, but delete and never post it
  • Shut off your phone or computer until you don’t feel angry anymore
  • Do an activity you enjoy or something else that calms you

Not only is avoiding the urge to vent better for you and the people around you, it can also make you a calmer and more tolerant individual.

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